Common Stay-at-Home Mom Problems
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Becoming a stay-at-home mom is a huge decision! Whether you’re already there or just considering it, there are some common stay-at-home mom problems. These are problems you may not have faced as a working mom or before you had kids – and that’s what makes them so difficult! Dealing with these new and unique situations can be quite a shock. Deciding to be a stay-at-home mom was a big change for me, but it was the best decision I could have made for my family. Here are some of the common stay-at-home mom problems you may find yourself faced with.
Putting Too Much on Your Plate
It always makes me chuckle to remember how much free time I thought I would have as a stay-at-home mom! In reality, just keeping the kids alive is a full-time job. If you’re expecting to be able to do crafts and hobbies, cook five-star recipes, clean the house top to bottom, and wear a full face of make-up, it may be time to lower your expectations! If one or some of those things is a priority to you, that’s great and will give your new SAHM life some excitement. But expecting too much of yourself is a common stay-at-home mom problem, and it can lead to burnout real quick. It’s okay to be in survival mode – give yourself grace!
Stay-at-home momming can be a lonely job. With no one but the kids to talk to, it’s easy to feel like you’re stranded. Now, in those first few days or weeks at home with a newborn, this can be a good thing! It can promote bonding, help with your milk supply, and can keep baby safe from diseases she doesn’t have protection from yet. But keeping the kids at home because it’s a chore to get them loaded into the car isn’t good for them or your mental state! Prioritize making some mommy friends or hanging out with family. Having people to laugh and chat with can be the difference between feeling isolated and having a full cup.
Your Days Blur Together
Being a stay at home mom is monotonous work! It’s an endless cycle of diapers, snacks, naps, and nursing sessions. It’s easy for the days to blend together into one long, endless day. Especially if your baby is very young, it’s important to break up your days or weeks with things that are important to you! Having some excitement is a big reason I started this blog. I needed a hobby that would make me look forward to waking up in the morning!
Loneliness and days that blend together can be an equation for depression in some moms. That’s totally okay! And if that’s you, please share how you’re feeling with someone you trust who will help you. Whether it’s just some discomfort from all the changes, or a full case of postpartum depression, finding the right resources now will help you so much in the long run!
Even if your child is older, depression is still one of the deceptively common stay-at-home mom problems. Try adding something that breaks up your day and lets you get out your creative energy. When Keith was away for months at a time for work, and I was home with Emma, I was really struggling. After a few months of procrastinating, I joined a Bible study group. I made some great friends, dusted off the old brain!, and eventually found that leading Bible studies is something I’m called to do. Go out on a limb and try something new – it might be what you need to pull you out of this mom funk!
Being exhausted beyond belief is one of the most common stay-at-home mom problems! Now there are two camps here: either your kids or you are sick or you have some other issue that’s not in your control. OR you are just plain exhausted from giving everything you have to your family for little or no reward. If you find yourself in the first group, forget about productivity while your life settles down, enlist help, pay for a cleaner – do whatever it is you have to do to survive. No one is judging your messy house (and if they are, they can shove it!)
However, if you’re totally worn out by every day life and the thankless job you’ve found yourself in, I want to say this: that’s okay, too. Being a stay-at-home mom is one of the hardest, longest, most exhausting jobs that exist. You have every right to fall asleep on the couch at 8pm. My advice for you is to get one thing done every day, whether it’s laundry, dishes, or finding whatever smells in the fridge. If you can, do two things. Experiment with finding your most productive time – maybe nap time is off be table because you need to eat lunch. Every family is different, and do what works for you! Even if that means washing dishes after your 1am nursing session. Here are some tips about creating a SAHM schedule that works for you!
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If you’re considering becoming a SAHM, I hope these common stay-at-home mom problems haven’t scared you off! The rewards from being with your babies all day are amazing. But it’s also important to be as prepared as possible, and know that you aren’t alone!
What was the toughest part of your transition to being a stay at home mom? Tell me in the comments!
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