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Does your life feel rushed and hectic? Especially for stay-at-home and work-at-home moms, we often feel like we should be enjoying every precious moment with our children. But in real life, we have chores, responsibilities, work, and children to deal with. So how can we slow down and enjoy our lives… without having to move to an off-grid cabin in the woods? Read on to learn the benefits of slowing down and how to do it.
Why Should I Slow Down?
You know that feeling all moms have half an hour before bedtime… Head spinning with dirty dishes, unbathed kids, unfinished homework, what you need to catch up on before you go to sleep, and your new favorite Netflix show whispering for you to just ignore it all? That crazy, out-of-control and drowning feeling is why we as moms need to really slow down.
When you think of the calm, present, intentional mom you want to be, she isn’t thinking of a thousand things at once. She isn’t ignoring her kid’s whines while she microwaves her cold coffee. She has a plan, is confident in what she can do in a day, and is making an effort to actually enjoy her life. Becoming that calm mom is why we all need to focus on slowing down.
How to Slow Down
But how do we actually do it? How do we go from frazzled to patient and intentional? The first big step is realizing that you can’t do it all in one day. Stop yourself from needing to fill in all the empty spaces in your day. Those empty spaces are where fun happens and memories form! But, I know that you’re busy and have a million things to do. Here’s how to get what you need to do done, while also learning to slow down.
If you don’t have to do it, don’t! Don’t give yourself busy work or hold yourself to a higher standard than necessary. Remember, this season of feeling rushed will end one day, especially when your kids are out of the house. Relax your standards a little bit to enjoy more time with them and slow down.
Routines & Reminders
For the things you have to do, use a schedule to make sure they’re getting done on time. Daily chores, meal prep, and errands can all be done at generally the same time each day or week. Getting into a good routine will help you do these tasks with less effort, freeing up more time for you! For those to-dos that don’t need to repeat, set a reminder on your phone for a certain time. That way, you don’t need to spend mental energy re-reminding yourself to complete that task – you’ll be reminded when you decide is the best time to do it. If you have young kids, a routine is great for them too! (Read more about routines in Why Do I Need Routines?).
Big Picture Perspective
The best way to slow down is to keep a big-picture perspective. This means focusing on the things that really matter! When you’re stressing or rushing, ask yourself: will this matter in five years? If it won’t, take a deep breath, relax, and slow down.
This is the most important tip! To really slow down, you have to learn how to have fun again. When we were kids, we could play and imagine without getting bored for hours. But as adults, we seem to want to cram our lives full of things to do. We want to be busy, because that means we’re doing this whole adulting thing right! But in reality, we’re burning ourselves out, cheating our kids out of having fun parents, and forgetting what really matters.
Slow down, be present, and do something fun and relaxing. I love to play Legos and draw with my four-year-old daughter. Not long from now she’ll be a busy adult herself, and I want both of us to slow down and enjoy these memories we’re making together.
How do you remember to slow down? Leave me a comment!
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